“There’s a secret to keeping someone else’s angry words from ruining your day.”

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“Sometimes we’re the target of angry words and have no choice but to endure the insults. But that doesn’t mean we have to accept those words at face value. No matter what you’ve done, you don’t deserve to be abused—verbally or otherwise. If you’ve wronged another person, he or she has a right to express their grievance, and you have the responsibility to make amends.”…see full article by clicking link.

Serenity and Anger Not Felt Together

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Let Serenity replace the anger with creating solutions rather than fueling the anger.

We fuel the anger through competition, choosing to be right and not considering alternative view points, building unfounded thoughts that we are being accused or persecuted, degrading ourselves, and fearing there are no solutions.

Be mindful of your thoughts that are escalating your anger then consider that you can have serenity by choosing to view the situation in a realistic solution directed outlook.

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Chemistry of Anger Men and Women

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Quoted from Dr. Mercola’s affect on Men Research-     Research

“The feeling of anger, like all emotions, is not isolated in your mind. The mental reaction triggers a cascade of physical reactions that extend throughout your body, including:

  • Increases in heart rate, arterial tension and testosterone
  • Decreases in cortisol (the stress hormone)
  • Stimulation of your left brain hemisphere, which is involved in experiencing emotions related to closeness

Interestingly, the last finding, uncovered by researchers from the University of Valencia, suggests that although anger is perceived as a negative emotion, it actually prompts you to become closer to the object of your anger, likely as a means to stop the conflict. And when it comes to anger, resolving the upset is a very wise decision.”

From Everyday Health-Women Anger and Stress

“Stress: How Women Are Affected

The effects of the natural anti-stress hormone oxytocin, produced during childbirth, breastfeeding, and in both sexes during orgasm, are enhanced by estrogen and reduced by testosterone.

This helps women more than men, Rosch says. And nurturing activities boost oxytocin levels in women.

The catch-22 is that women need more oxytocin than men to maintain their emotional health. For example, Rosch explains, women are more negatively affected when they’re not touched, and also feel more stress than men in relationships.

According to the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP), stress is an expression of the body’s natural instinct to protect itself. While this may warn a woman of immediate danger, like a fast-approaching car, prolonged stress effects can negatively affect your physical and emotional health.

“Our stress response was exquisitely honed over millions of years as a protective mechanism,” said Rosch. “That was OK for our ancestors who ran into saber-toothed tigers. The tragedy is that today, it’s not that, but hundreds of things like getting stuck in traffic jams. Our bodies respond in the same unfortunate fashion, with hypertension, strokes, and ulcers.”